I don’t like excuses. I never have. It’s not to say that sometimes there isn’t a really valid reason why you did/didn’t do something. I think the reason I don’t like them is that I know (deep down) there really is no excuse for my not doing the things I should do. (Example: yes, my kitchen is small but that doesn’t mean it’s okay to let the dishes pile up in the tiny sink.) Excuses are the first thing to flood my mind when a challenge is presented. (Example: my dear friend wants to run a half-marathon in five months. My first thought is ‘I can’t do it’.) I’m sure this has a lot to do with psychology and negativity and whatnot but that’s an idea I don’t really have the desire to explore cause I’ll just confuse you and I’ll confuse myself. I have a point with this blog entry and I want to stick to it – for your sake, friends.
The working title of this blog started in my head as ‘reasons why I don’t write’. Then I realized that it’s bigger than that; it’s about my relationship with excuses. To me, excuses are like a vapor: they float in and fog up my end-goal; they confuse and disorient me and I can’t grasp them. I’m a little too good at giving myself excuses and as a consequence, I sort of end up shaming myself. Crazy, right?! The way I deal with this shame is to close in on myself. I cut out everyone and everything, I go dark on social media (yes, even Instagram), I shuffle on through my life keeping my eyes down. I retreat – all because of excuses. That brings us to writing. I know a lot of bloggers (not that I’m calling myself a “blogger”) struggle with finding their voice, consistency in writing and building a readership. I know the only way to build my readership is to write consistently. I feel like, when I’m in this self-shamed-state, that I don’t want to write. I get so tired of myself and as a consequence I feel like you all will be tired of me too. I feel like nothing I’m writing will be of any real gain. Before this spirals into a web-based pity-party, I’m going to continue my original idea giving you reasons I don’t write. Without further adieu:
reasons I don’t write:
- My phone deleted all my pictures (long story – not my fault) so any picture blogging I had planned came to a halt. I say “my phone” but it was really a misunderstanding between my phone, a work PC and a camera. I’d never blame Apple for something like that.
- I still kind of hate it that I don’t completely understand WordPress. I’m going to have to resign myself to the fact that I’m simply not a person that can teach myself. I need someone to teach me. My ‘WordPress for Dummies’ remains uncracked.
- There’s cat litter on my desk which my cats use as a glorified perch. How is one expected to have a creative space when there are two cats running around like crazies, leaving a trail of litter everywhere (did I mention my apartment is small. Small space + two litterboxes = mayhem).
- I’m not really super happy about anything going on at the moment. Springtime is fantastic – don’t get me wrong. I love the city and I love my apartment… but I can’t muster up the modicum of happiness required to put into a blog entry.
- See aforementioned “excuse” of closing in on myself – I’m kind of floating around in there right now.
- I’m overly critical. Of everything.
- Once I stop being regular about writing, it’s easier to stay on track that way than it is to get a thoughtful post up.
It’s not that I don’t want to blog. Cause I do. In fact, I’ve even thought about maybe putting some effort toward writing a book of essays. Please just forgive me for this awkward time of in-betweenness. I’m going to get better, I promise. After all, if I want to be the next David Sedaris, I have to start somewhere.
P.S. I’m headed to Vegas in t-6 days. Something good will come out of that, surely! Right?!
8. Because I am taking up my writing energy writing reasons why I don’t write. 😉 I think all writers struggle with this on some level or another. I am reasonably prolific with my writing, but I’m writing all day long for my job in marketing, and then I blog, and then I wonder why I don’t have time or energy to write “the book.” I think we (I, all of us) give time to and rejuvenate for the things that matter to us. And when it matters, you will write. 🙂 Hang in there. Nice to find your blog!
Jen! Thank you so much for saying that. You’re so right. With computers and writing absorbing so much of the day, it’s really no wonder we’re not motivated to spend the evening doing the same. I usually get sucked into the vortex that is television. 🙂
I feel this way regularly. You may have noticed how far apart my blog entries are . . . I’m not trying to make it into a career (although that would be wonderful), but I do empathize with your frustration.